7 Keys To An Enjoyable Relationship

Okay guys, its official, February is here and I want to say a big welcome to every one. As promised this is a month for love and relationship topics. So sit back and enjoy!

As the saying goes, indeed, no man is an island, and as such relationships are meant for everyone. And there are so many kinds of relationships. We have the parent-child relationship, relationship between siblings, relationship between friends, business relationships, employer-employee relationship, relationship between humans and pets, relationship between teachers and students, the list is endless. And ultimately, we have relationship between a man and a woman.
PAUSE! You're probably wondering why I said ultimately with regards to relationship between a man and woman. Well, I said so because that's where it all began. Check out the book of Genesis to see for yourself!! 😉.
You see relationships are so important, as a matter of fact the very existence of life is built on relationship, and by that I mean, relationship between God and humanity. It is because of this importance that I want to share with you 7 keys which I believe would usher you into a more enjoyable relationship with your partner or spouse. That's right! This post is specifically dedicated to relationship between a man and a woman. Nevertheless, some of the keys can be applied in other forms of relationships, but I must say that my main emphasis is on relationship between spouses or dating partners.
Okay, here we go!

KEY #1- UNDERSTANDING YOUR SELF
This is where a whole lot of people get it wrong. I mean, I see a whole lot of people getting into relationships, trying to get to know their partners better and all of that, whereas they have failed in the aspect of getting to know themselves first. It would shock some of you when I tell you that I am not just referring to knowing your likes and your dislikes but I'm referring to more than that. You see each person has a role to play in every relationship. And we all bring in our unique characteristics into the various relationships we find ourselves in.

Knowing who you are, the kind of personality you have, understanding your emotional make up, knowing your strengths and weaknesses would go a long way in helping you determine your standards, boundaries as well as limits in any and every relationship you find yourself. You see clarity is a necessity in any love relationship, and this means that you need to be clear on who you are and what you stand for first. It is after you have done this that you can now determine if the other individual is a good match or partner for you. You see! It all starts from here. I know that learning to understand your entire self and make up is a process, but you should at least know the basics. This would help not only you but also your partner as well.
So before getting yourself committed to any man or to any woman, start by understanding yourself first, this is the first key to ensuring that you would be able to enjoy such a relationship with the other person in the future.

KEY #2- CAREFULLY SELECTING A GOOD PARTNER FOR YOURSELF
As a matter of fact, you need to SLOW IT DOWN, I mean what's with all the rush. We are talking about a lifelong commitment here.
Once you have undergone the process of getting to know and understand yourself, you can now move on to the next thing, which is a careful selection of a partner that will compliment you. You see, those who miss the first step usually fumble in this step also. And this is why we have a whole lot of mismatched relationships.

When you are ready for and can handle all that comes with a love relationship with the opposite sex, you should slow down your pace, and carefully select. And my bonus tip on how you can do this is for you to focus more on building friendships with people of the opposite sex, this way you would have a good variety of people to choose from. Why do I say good? I say this because, to a large extent the friends you keep are more or less a reflection of the kind of person you are.
My advice for the men would be, choose a partner who is already your friend, one you feel can compliment you. And for the women, say yes, only to someone who is and has been a good friend to you. Do not go ‘solo’ with a total stranger, or someone you know very little about. Trust me, it just might not end well, I've been down that path before, myself and so many other men and woman and we are asking you to not make that same mistake. Once you are able to do a careful selection of a good partner, then be rest assured that you are on the path to having an enjoyable relationship.

KEY #3- UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER
I always say this, before things get serious and by this I mean before you get married, it is always better to get to know and understand who that person is and also the personality of such a one.

Is he or she someone you feel secure with? Is it someone you can trust wholeheartedly? Is it someone that you have no doubts about? Or someone you see or can imagine yourself with in the long run? Is he or she someone whom you feel safe starting a family with? All these and more, are things to look out for when trying to understand your partner. You should also focus on your partner's behaviour, this is much more important. As a matter of fact, the success of any relationship is to a large extent determined by the behavioural patterns of the parties (individuals) involved. Instead, of always spending time indoors alone, try going out more. Try meeting other people and observe how your partner relates and behaves around other people. Know what pisses him off (or her), know her likes and dislikes (or his), know each others strengths and weak points, you can do these by asking each other questions or by simply being more observant. If you want to enjoy your relationship with your partner, then you need to become more interested in him or her. You need to get to understand who you are dealing with and once you succeed at doing this. It will become easier to flow and relate with such a person- thus, enjoyable!

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