“MESSY" Speaks

Hello readers, picture this- have you ever walked into a room with clothes on the bed, the bed unmade, tissue rolls on the floor, make-up stains on the wall (or mirror), bras hanging on the sofa, oh and a bad smell oozing from the convenience or worse still, a kitchen filled with dirty dishes, oil stains on the tiles, a messed up cooker and the like? ‘Mehn' I'd be like ‘eeeuuuweee,'  that is so not cool. And the funny part is you thought you could keep this secret for long, well sorry its no secret anymore, she found out, I found out, ‘he' found out, yes and the news just kept spreading...

Ladies, let's be honest with ourselves many times, that scenario which we just pictured is some what a close reflection of how we keep our homes, whether still single or married (and boy its so much worse then!). Yes, and though we tend to over look it all too many times, this is a very, VERY, bad habit. Let me tell you that such a habit could pretty well ruin a whole lot of good relationships you might have had and I mean with both sexes.

I titled this topic as,“ ‘MESSY' Speaks," for a reason. You see, being MESSY (untidy,dirty,unkempt,unhealthy..) as some would put it is many times over looked and seen as something not far from the ordinary. But in reality, the direct opposite is true, it is not ordinary, its BAD, and although you might not think so, but this bad habit speaks a lot about who you are, it speaks some negative things about you that tend to push people very far from you (and sure later you'd be sobbing in your privacy, asking why do people just keep leaving?). Now let me go straight to the point, so that you can very well answer that inward question of yours.
Being ‘messy' speaks certain things about a person and most times unknown to that person, these are a few impressions people would get about you, that is, if you've embraced the habit;

(1) That you are a LAZY person, this is usually their first impression especially when such a person is just getting to know you better, if that person already knows you to be the neat type, their first impression would likely be that you must have been in so much of a haste that you left home in such state. But if the former is the case, then you would have made someone see you as a lazy person and lazy persons most times are able to only keep lazy friends (their like-mates).

(2) That you are a DIRTY person, this happens especially when so much dirt is spotted all around the house,for instance, if you're always leaving the dirty dishes unattended to, the floors unswept, the furniture dusty, the cooker greasy... Then people can easily term you as being a dirty person, there are no two ways about it sister, whether its a deliberate act or not, a person is entitled to his/her own opinion, and often times you only need to change, yourself for that person to change judgement as well.

(3) That you are UNORGANIZED, now excuse me but if your office area is always in a mess, then you'd likely be missing out on some major tasks that your boss might have assigned you to no matter how brilliant you are. This is because such an act of untidiness in the office (or even at home) shows that you lack the ability to organize things, and sometimes this might be the reason for a delayed promotion, yes! That's as bad as it gets.

(4) That you are ILL-MANNERED, now imagine ‘he' takes you on a date and you are eating with your mouth full, and not only that, you just had to stain the table cloth in such a messy way, oops and then your wine glass tips over- my-oh-my! a ruined date you would say. How true, and that's because you messed it all up, and please, no sister, it wasn't just a mistake, its a bad habit that needs to be dealt with. That guy would be scared of taking you home to meet his family, because he would feel you lack manners.

(5) Lastly, that you cannot keep a HOME, yes so true and this is very practicable. Most women with this habit have a hard time of managing and keeping their homes when they are married. If you can't be tidy and organized while still single, is it when the husband and the kids come that you will be? Charity they say begins at home, but in this context I'd say it begins with you.

Now, let me tell you how this can affect any potential date relationship you have and even your marriage if you are married;

You see men, unlike we women who like to cover up for each other (they call it the ‘sisterhood'), say it as it is. If a man thinks you are dirty, chances are that he'll tell you to your face that you are dirty. No responsible man would want to take a woman who's lazy,dirty, unorganized (though this can be managed), but they'll definitely not take you if they feel you cannot keep a home. This is very important to men. That's why I said earlier MESSY can make you lose out on many good relationship. Every woman should know this and should work on herself, especially if she's a defaulter in any of these areas. And my personal advice to such women there's no need venturing into dating relationships just yet, not until you've been able to deal with the MESSY habit. This is to avoid eventual heart breaks and break ups.

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