YOU CAN HAVE BETTER (Dealing With Failed Relationships) PART 2

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....It just depends on how you SEE it. Yes, emphasis laid on the word ‘SEE,' this is because the things we see- picture in our mind's eye, tend to restrict us a great deal. Let me paint the picture for you, here's what the average woman thinks,“.....oh my, I can't believe we just brokeup, I'm still in shock, and I gave him everything, I was committed to him and he just took me for granted, would I ever be able to overcome this? But I still love him dearly. Can I love another? Or maybe its all my fault- I'm just not good enough...."
There, that's the picture many of us see, and that becomes your mentality- and this is all so WRONG. You cannot have a BETTER relationship with thoughts like that. Ladies, the scene I just illustrated- that right there- is the PROBLEM. Okay, time for some evaluation;

Scene 1: “....oh my, I can't believe we just brokeup, I'm still in shock... "
Sweetheart, please, you need to accept what is as it is, you need to overcome that shock, and I'll be sharing the ‘how to' later on in this post. I know its not easy, but dear you were made strong and you are strong. So get up, pack it all up and take a step, take two and gradually, you'd move on.
Scene 2: “....I gave him everything, I was committed to him and he just took me for granted..."
Now, this is one major reason why most times letting go is really difficult. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it is wrong to be committed to you relationship, as a matter of fact it is right to be committed, but it is wrong to give away your ‘pride' and your ‘dignity' to that man, before he makes the ultimate commitment to you. Just in case you do not understand me- I'm simply saying its totally not okay to have sex with that man who is not yet married to you. Let me tell you why; you see for us women its in our nature to give, right? That's why when we are in relationships we give our love, time, effort, money, body and many times our entire lives to the men we love (date), but the thing is having sex with him, even in our subconscious signifies a much deeper commitment to that man- yes! Most times when you're sleeping with that man, you usually don't imagine him leaving you right? After all, you've just made the commitment. Thing is, the man has been wired differently, they don't usually get all so emotional with the sex as you would. A man would rather show his commitment to you by professing his love for you ( by putting a ring on your finger and actually going through with the marriage). So now ask yourselves this, why do you risk so much? Why commit to a man who hasn't committed to you? What if he doesn't commit eventually? That would leave you heart broken I know.

To be continued.....it gets more interesting!

To read the Part One and Three of this topic, please click any of the links below 👇

Dealing With Failed Relationships -PART 3

Dealing With Failed Relationships -PART 1

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